Category Archives: Daily Tips

Yam pepper soup with goat meat recipe

To tell you the truth, there are different versions of pepper soups in Nigeria and they all are delicious. You can cook this meal with different meat and fish. Right now, it is time to prepare yam pepper soup with goat meat. Are you ready? Let us begin our culinary guide.

Pepper soup ingredients

Before we explain to you how to make pepper soup, it is necessary to understand what its main ingredients are. Here are the main products required for this African native soup:

  • Goat meat – 650-750 grams
  • Onion – two regular size pieces
  • White yam – 500 grams
  • Pepper – use as much as you like in your regular meals
  • Salt – to your personal taste
  • Stock cube – two good-size pieces
  • Basil – a couple of pieces
  • Aromatic spices (it could be nutmegs, ehu seeds or ariwo) – a little bit
  • Dry ashanti pepper leaves – two tablespoons (it is possible to replace scent leaves with this ingredient)
  • Big pot or pressure cooker – 1 piece
  • Water – several cups

You can cook the goat along with its skin. As for the pepper, it is better to use the Habanero Pepper or any other chili peppers type as well as ground pepper.

Yam pepper soup with goat meat recipe ingredients

How to make goat meat pepper soup

Any type of native soups tastes better with goat meat in them. This ingredient adds an incredible flavor to the old-style recipe.

  • Step 1. The meat needs to be washed before cooking. Make sure to cut it into pieces (chunks will work great). Take a big pot (better with a lead) and put your goat meat inside. Pour some water to be sure the meat is fully covered. Some people enjoy soups with much water in them. Others like the vegetables and meat more. It is up to you to decide on the amount of water that is perfect for incredible and extremely delicious yam pepper soup with pieces of tasty meat.

Yam pepper soup with goat meat recipe how to cook

  • Step 2. Wash onion. Cut it into pieces (minor or big, depending on what family likes more). Place them along with ehu seeds and stock cubes into the pot.

Yam pepper soup with goat meat recipe onion

  • Step 3. Begin cooking. Use either a good size pressure cooker (this is the best dish for cookers) or use a pot with a lead. You should boil everything for about 10 minutes.
  • Step 4. It is time to peel the yam which should be afterwards cut into good-size pieces. Add all these pieces to your soup. Now continue simmering everything at low heat for another 30-40 minutes.

Yam pepper soup with goat meat recipe cooking yam

  • Step 5. In addition, when you feel that the meat is nearly done you should take out the big pieces of onion. Those of you who love onion can leave them in the soup.
  • Step 6. Now add some pepper to make the taste better and scent leaves to add flavor.
  • Step 7. Leave the soup to simmer for another 4-6 minutes. Ready-to-eat yam and goat meat should be soft when you deep you fork into it.

Yam pepper soup with goat meat

  • Step 8. You can serve the delicious yam pepper soup with goat meat with other meals. Enjoy the soup with your family and friends.

The delicious mix of different spices (pepper and other ingredients) and goat meat tastes like a real delicacy. This African recipe is for those who want to try something incredible and easy-to-cook. Eat yam pepper soup with goat meat and feel refreshed at any season of the year.

There is love in SHARING

We’ve Been Charging Our Smartphones Wrong All This Time, See The Proper Way

No matter how good the battery is on your smartphone, if you’re using it heavily, it will barely last you an entire day.

For some people the reality is even worse, with an old iPhone 5 I used to have, if I managed to get eight hours of life from it, I’d consider myself very lucky.

Things got even worse as the battery aged. But, there’s a long-held belief that charging your smartphone in short bursts will cause long term damage to the batteries, and you’re better off waiting until they’re close to dead before charging them.

But this isn’t true according to a site belonging to battery company Cadex called Battery University. They argue that leaving your phone plugged in when it’s fully charged (like say, if you put it charging overnight) is bad for the battery in the long run.

Once your phone reaches the desired 100% battery when it’s plugged in, it receives “trickle charges” to maintain the battery at full charge.

This keeps the battery high-stress, high-tension state that wears down the chemistry within the battery and is bad for it in the long run.

Therefore, you should plug out your phone as soon as it’s charged, and don’t leave it charging overnight, which we guess about 98% of the population do.

You don’t even need to charge the battery fully every time you use it. “Li-ion does not need to be fully charged as is the case with lead acid, nor is it desirable to do so.

In fact, it is better not to fully charge because a high voltage stresses the battery,” according to Battery University.

Basically, anytime you’ve a spare few minutes, you should try and plug your phone in rather than doing one mammoth charge at the end of the day.

Hope you have been able to comprehend this?

There is love in SHARING

Drinking Coconut Water Will Turn a Child into an Olodo (Dunce)

Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard this before:

“Don’t eat that _______________ (fill in the blank with seemingly harmless food or fruit).  It will make you ___________________________.” (fill in the blank with completely unnatural and very negative, undesirable bodily or mental functions).

What?! I’m the only one raising my hand?

Sacre bleu! I refuse to believe this.

Seriously, growing up I heard all sorts of myths and taboos surrounding food.  It just so happens that one of those myths has to do with a certain fruit. 

Take a wild guess ….

If you said garden egg, you’re absolutely wrong! I was referring to Coconut.  You know, that white fleshy fruit encased in a hairy hard brown shell.

Whoa! So many adjectives to describe one fruit!

I was told not to drink coconut water because it would make a person an olodo.  Can you believe that? Ordinary omi agbon(coconut water) had the mind-boggling ability to transform an intelligent person or at least, a person of average intelligence into a Dodoyo (pronounced Duh-Duh-Yaw) … or Olodo (pronounced Oh-Low-Doh).  A person who makes zero over ten (0/10) in Maths.  Not Further Maths (Calculus).

Olodo means “Dunce” or “Dullard” in Yoruba, in case you were wondering.

Also referred to as coconut juice, Coconut water is the water in the coconut when you gbosa! i.e. Slam the coconut on the floor … Or break it open with a cutlass … Or something like that.  In short, it’s the water in the coconut. 

Now, if your coconut has no water in it, please return it and get a refund immediately.  Someone drank it before you and deprived you of the joy of savoring the refreshing taste of fresh coconut water.  That’s my theory and I’m sticking to it.  😀

If you’ve tasted coconut water in young coconuts (like the one in the picture above) where the flesh has not fully developed and is still really soft, you’ll notice that it tastes quite different from the coconut water in a “mature” coconut.


How can I say “mature” coconut with a straight face? Mwa ha ha ha!

But yes, there is a difference in taste.

So, what about that myth? Oh yes, the myth that drinking coconut water will turn a child (or an adult gan-an) into an olodo.  Is it true?

The answer is No.

Coconut water actually has certain health benefits:

  • Low in Calories
  • Low in Sodium
  • Fat free and Cholesterol free

But, like they say in infommercials, “that’s not all!”

Coconut water is rich in potassium, and therefore can prevent dehydrationpromote heart healthpromote kidney health and prevent aging (but that’s stretching it). 

From what I have read, Olodo-ism is not listed as one of its side effects. 

So, who came up with this coconut water myth and why?  That is a million dollar question!

What food myths and taboos have you heard before? Please share!

Image Source: Flickr

There is love in SHARING

See 9 Things You Must Stop Doing If You Want To Be Successful In Life [ Must Read]

Earl Nightingale, American motivational speaker and author, once said, “We become what we think about.” Perhaps truer words have never been spoken. 

The human mind is an incredible thing, and having the right attitude and mindset has routinely been stated by numerous successful people as being a pivotal key to success. Sometimes, however, it is easy to get side-tracked. Situations in life can get in the way of our goals, self-esteem, and personal well-being. Truthfully, success is a subjective term, and everyone will disagree over what constitutes being successful. 
Here are a list of guidelines, however, of some things to stop doing if you want to be or feel successful.

1. Stop Expecting Perfection
Often, we get frustrated when things don’t work out the way we want them to, or as quickly as we’d like them to. We stress over small details, or beat ourselves up for getting one thing wrong, or forgetting to dot one I or cross one T. People are fallible. Mistakes and drawbacks are a fact of life. Nothing is nor will it ever be perfect, and that’s okay.
Stressing out over minute details or things that would have been impossible to get to is unproductive and unhealthy. Start saying that you will do your personal best, because at the end of the day, you’re not in competition with anyone but yourself.
Example: Jennifer Lawrence is someone who everyone seems to be talking about right now, but did you know she was rejected for the role of Bella Swan in ‘Twilight‘? She also didn’t take theater classes. She just trusted her instincts and worked as hard as possible to land acting roles. Obviously, she wasn’t perfect for every role, but she didn’t expect perfection. She takes her failures and rejections well, trying to learn from each situation.

2. Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No

It’s always important to know your limits, and people will always try to test them. Human beings are social animals. We want to interact with others and feel like we are a part of something or like we are special to someone else. People also, for the most part, like to please others. Sometimes, however, it’s easy to be taken advantage of. Whether it’s helping a co-worker with something when you can’t really afford to, or loaning a friend money you can’t really afford to give.
Out of guilt, people often say yes to people and situations that they really should say no to. 

Don’t be afraid to trust your gut and say no. Sometimes you can’t stay a few hours later because you had other plans or important errands to run. Sometimes it’s okay to say no to that co-worker that keeps nagging you for help but is really just stalling because they don’t want to work and know you’ll help them.

Sometimes it’s okay to prioritize other things over work. Saying no is healthy. Saying no means that you know your boundaries and can demand respect.
Example: Margaret Thatcher is known as being tough. She was a powerful politician. She also knew during her career when she had to take a stand, and sometimes that stand meant saying no to bad political and economic policy.

3. Stop Negative Self-Dialogue

We all can probably play back in our minds every negative or embarrassing thing we’ve ever done to ourselves, been subjected to, or done to someone else. Whether it’s tripping over one’s shoelaces in the fourth grade, or being fired from a job, wronging someone else, or overhearing someone speaking negatively about us, those thoughts are forever solidified in our minds.
Replaying those thoughts, however, and constantly punishing oneself for past mistakes, is counterproductive at certain points. At some point, it’s more important to learn from situations and move on, instead of psychologically beating yourself up.
The next time you find yourself saying, “I’m not pretty enough”, “I did this horrible thing once five years ago and I’ll never forgive myself”, or any type of statement along those lines, turn off that negative self-dialogue. Look in the mirror and say something kind to yourself. Read some inspirational quotes. Acknowledge that you are taking steps and making an effort to be a better person. Admit to yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and most importantly, that making mistakes is okay.
Example: This article does a good job of listing Steve Job’s failures. We remember him anyway, and we remember him as a pioneer and someone who didn’t give up. When things go wrong, and they often do, it’s easy for us to remember every mistake we have ever made along the way.
Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of our goals because of that lack of confidence. Don’t give up and attempt to stay positive. Train your brain to think of things in a new, more positive way. Most of all, keep working hard. Failure doesn’t have to be permanent.
4. Stop Focusing On Just Today

Successful people tend to understand the value of a good plan. They plan out their day, their goals, a budget and they plan how much to save for retirement. That doesn’t mean they don’t have fun, though. They most certainly do! They just make sure to plan when it is appropriate and inappropriate to have fun. They make time for productivity and fun, but still save and think about the future.
So, stop just focusing on today and having fun. Think about where you want to be in five, 10 or 15 years down the road! Having a good focus aids in success!
Example: Neil deGrasse Tyson has been in love with the universe and science since he was nine years old. Because of that love, he worked long-term to study the things he cared about. He was accepted into Harvard where he majored in physics, eventually moving on to advanced education. His list of accomplishments would take up another full article in and of itself.

5. Stop Ignoring Your Goals
Stop believing things will just work out for you because you’re a good person. Good things only happen to people who make an effort. A part of making an effort is setting goals for oneself. As evidenced in the previous point, it’s not enough to just focus on the day at hand. It’s important to manage time and set short-term and long-term goals in order to be able to track progress and have something to strive for.
Example: Alan Turing is considered the father of artificial intelligence and computers. He also broke the code to the Nazi encryption machine called Enigma. He faced many challenges along the way, such as the inability to identify with others and being charged with indecency, for which he was eventually pardoned. Despite his personal struggles, though, he managed to break the code for Enigma, saving approximately 14 million people from death and in turn helped end World War 2.
6. Stop Isolating People
Successful people understand that not everything is about work, church or similar obligations. Some things are about family, relaxation, and hobbies. It’s easy to get the impression that everyone who feels or defines themselves as successful probably has no spare time on their hands, and in some cases, that’s true.
However, it isn’t always. Social isolation can kill people. In fact, many successful people have mastered the art of balance. They don’t isolate the people they love because they have large goals or something they want to accomplish. Instead, they incorporate those they love into their goals and hobbies.
Example: According to a recent Forbes article, many leaders feel lonely. However, here are 25 examples of social business leaders who seem to thrive on relationships. It’s okay to know how to work alone and prefer that, but it’s also important to be able to rely on your staff, friends, and family for support.
Involving people in leadership or product processes makes them feel valued and provides valuable feedback. Successful people enjoy that relationship. They also enjoy their time away from their goals and work to spend time with their loved ones.

7. Stop Comparing Yourself To Everyone Else
Successful people understand that the only person they can compete with today is the person they were yesterday. They are too focused on themselves and their goals to worry about anyone else. They don’t want to compare themselves to others because it’s counterproductive. However, they do analyze where they have weak points and are able to genuinely admire people who have mastered things they have not.
There is no use to comparing yourself to someone else. It’s counterproductive and harmful to your self-esteem. It also helps to harbor negative self-dialogue.
Example: Taylor Swift is one of the most successful recording artists of our time, but before that, she was a struggling musician in Nashville playing at small venues and coffee shops. She would turn in demos to various studios, covering a variety of songs.
It was only when she started playing and writing her own music that she got noticed and became the celebrity she is today. She faced a lot of adversity as well. There were people who doubted her skills and told her she couldn’t sing. Her confidence and faith in herself overcame that.

8. Stop Living In The Past
Successful people learn from their failures, but they do not live in the past. They take the skills and lessons they acquired from their failures and apply them to the present and future. Don’t live in your own personal past. Don’t define yourself by who you were. Define yourself by who you are today and by who you’re working toward becoming.
Example: Would we even remember Thomas Edison if he gave up on his ideas before becoming successful? Can you imagine simply focusing on what happened yesterday? So what if yesterday was a failure? Try again! Failure teaches us about what doesn’t work, and helps us get closer to a process that does work. Choose your attitude and control it. Move forward. Remember, failure is feedback.

9. Stop Tolerating Dishonest People
Successful people appreciate other people for their unique traits and gifts. They do not attempt to harm, belittle, or in any way demean others for their own successes or ideas. They are open to relationships with others, but know when to cut the cord, so to speak.
People can be too forgiving when it comes to being wronged, and it’s important to know one’s limits. Successful people do not tolerate negative and dishonest people, because they are too busy loving honest, sincere people.
Example: Everyone. We have all had frenemies. We have all invested in people who did not return our investment in them. Successful people know how to weed these dishonest people out. No one wants unneeded negativity around themselves or around the people they love. Read this article for tips on how to deal with dishonest people.
Emina Dedic is a career student, political activist, and writer. She enjoys investigating and writing about issues pertaining to politics, fashion, business, higher education, and travel. In addition to writing for LifeHack, Emina also writes for Life After Study Abroad and HackCollege. She is working on a book about completing college for a fraction of the regular cost.

There is love in SHARING

7 Early Signs Of A Broken Relationship

When a relationship is on its last leg and a breakup is inevitable, who ends it? Recognising that her habits have become annoying instead of cute is just the start. Her rude mobile phone calls mid-meal, the way she thinks she’s always right and her complete lack of respect for your opinion should all be sending you a clear message.

A lot of people find it hard to face reality sometimes and admit that their relationship is over, especially if they’ve been stuck in an unhealthy union for so long.

If you and your partner are not happy with each other, a breakup might be an intelligent option for both of you to consider, because it’s really not worth it to remain in a relationship that’s not working.

Some of the many ways to know that your relationship, as you know it, has neared its final lap:

  • Constant Fighting:There’s no perfect relationship, but constant fighting is not healthy in any way. It’s okay if you fight once in a while, but when you and your partner fight everyday, even over minor or inconsequential things, it’s time to say goodbye to your relationship or look for smart ways to stop the endless fighting. Find out the reason of your fights: money, female friends or job. If you realize you two are constantly fighting for no apparent reason, your relationship may well be over.

  • No More Calls/Text: In the beginning of relationship, the partners used to call and text to each other several times a day. They would send romantic messages and gifts. But after a while, they are rather too busy to call or even a text. When one calls the other, they don’t have any second to say how much he/she miss the other. They never text back as well. That’s a clear sign that he/she is not interested anymore.

  • Always Busy: Of course, there are times when your partner may be very busy and you are not supposed to disturb. But if he/she is always busy, then it’s just a ready-made excuse. It’s easier to say ‘I’m busy’ than to spend the whole evening and night with a person you don’t love anymore. Find out if your partner is actually very busy, it’s not difficult to check.

  • Lost Of Interest: If you don’t want to spend time with your partner, you stop loving his/her jokes and touches. Just let your partner know that you want to end the relationship. They both have rights to know. If you think of meeting another guy/lady while dating your partner, what are you waiting for? Don’t waste your partner’s time! Honesty and respect are the things that you should never forget about, no matter what.

  • Forgetting Special Occasions: If your partner forgets your birthday, it’s a sad experience. Maybe, you don’t expect expensive gifts and a large bouquet of flowers, but you do expect your partner to show you how much he loves you and cares about you. If he/she forgets all special occasions, including your birthday, it’s clear that he/she doesn’t care about you anymore. Move on!

  • Nothing To Talk About:Remember when you first started your relationship, you could talk all night long without any awkward silences. Now, you don’t have anything to talk about. You spend a lot of time fighting over trifles and you rarely talk about your love and your future family and kids. If you don’t know how to start a conversation with your partner or he doesn’t want to talk to you because he is always busy, it’s a RED FLAG.

  • Mistakenly Calling You Another Name: If your partner has some female friends, it may not be as bad as you think. If he talks about them all day long, though, it’s time to find out more information about his new female friend. The worst thing is when he confuses names and calls you another name (and it happens more than once).

There is love in SHARING

How Grow Your Business Online [ Must Read]

Social media has become a driving force in terms of growing brand awareness for your company and finding your loyal customer base. If you want to convert fans and followers into customers for your products or clients for your services, you’ll want to — and need to boost engagement. The good news is that you can utilize many free aspects of social media to boost engagement and you don’t have to jump right into creating ads and paying for likesand clicks.

 Here are 3 easy ways to boost your business’ engagement on social media to improve conversions.

 1. Use Hashtags

 If you’ve ever seen the hashtags (#word) on someone’s social media post: e.g., “#productivity” or this: “#workfromanywhere,” the individual writing this hashtag is not just doing it to look cool (usually) or jump on a bandwagon movement. They are using this form to reel in people to their social media site, who share certain interests. It’s called a hashtag. If you are not using a hashtag properly yet for your social media pages, you need to start trying them out and then watch your metrics to see if this small change in your actions can make a difference in your site visits. Hashtags started popping up on Twitter a few years ago and now you can use them on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram to great effect to boost your business’ visibility. If you are running a special challenge or promotion, you can create a unique hashtag to allow your audience to follow your updates easily on social media (e.g.,: #waystowearnewscarf!). I see many businesses utilizing hashtags on Twitter and Instagram but not enough businesses utilizing this tool on Facebook. Facebook gets a ton of traffic and searches and if you’re not using hashtags in your posts on FB, you can be missing out on a lot of engagement with your product or service. When using hashtags, it’s important to have a strategy in mind. For example, you don’t want to share a post on social media and use the hashtag #itsanicedayoutside. For starters, that’s long and doesn’t even make sense unless you are selling photos or paintings of winter scenes. Most people won’t be searching for those words. Instead, you want to use hashtags that will target your ideal audience and customer. For example, if you run a travel agent business, you may use hashtags like, #travel #instatravel #exotictrips #digitalnomad #budgettravel #getouttatown, etc. You can also search for possible hashtag groups online as the trends are updated each year. Try looking online (especially on Twitter and Instagram) for things you’d like to buy or for a place you want to go and see what shows up in your results. This will give you many ideas that you can change-up to suit what you are trying to do with your business visibility.

 2. Use Branded Graphics

 Graphics and memes are extremely popular on social media and usually generate more engagement over posts with text ads only and links. This is a trend that is picking up speed, and worth the small extra effort. While you should post images regularly on social media, making them branded images will be even more beneficial for your business. People love visuals so if you customize graphics to include quotes, fast facts, or other information about your business and use the same fonts, colors, and styles for each image, your audience will become familiar with the visuals and use it to help identify your brand. Branded graphics are also so easy to share, retweet, and repost from social media so if you have a blog or you share articles regularly, be sure to have custom graphics created and added to your social media pages.

 3. Commit to a Posting ScheduleConsistency is key. You have to create a posting schedule that works for you and be able to commit to it. If you post three times a day on Facebook for a whole week then fail to post anything else for the remainder of the month, you’ll probably lose other people’s interest. But don’t just be consistent with junk. Make your information the best you can, each time, for your audience. If you commit to your schedule and stick to it, people will start to expect your content on certain days and times and look forward to it. For example, if you decide to post motivational financial quotes on Mondays, regular updates about your business on Wednesdays, and a helpful tip on Fridays, your audience will have a good idea of when they should head to your social media page and engage with your content. To make things easier, you can also take advantage of some social media scheduling tools so you can schedule updates ahead of time so you’re not taking time out of each day to be on your social media profiles.

Here are some of the best social media scheduling tools to take advantage of for different platforms. Most of them are free.


There is love in SHARING

How To Last Longer In Bed This Christmas [ Must Read

It’s common to equate sexual prowess with sexual stamina — although, amazing-and-short sex is almost always preferable to awful-but-long banging. Most people might not want to admit that they couldn’t make it past the five minute mark, but research shows almost half of men orgasm in two minutes or less. A 2017 survey by British sex toy retailer Lovehoney found that the average sex session is a manageable 10 minutes (19 if you include foreplay).

 The good news is that according to research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 10 minutes is right in line with how long people want sex to last. According to the study, seven to 13 minutes is a “desirable” length of time to be going at it in the bedroom. But if your sex life feels like a hundred meter dash and you need a 400 meter relay to get off, here are some things you can do to improve your mileage.

1. Have him masturbate beforehand. If you’ve seen There’s Something About Mary, you know that having sex without masturbating is “like going out there with a loaded gun.” Ejaculating an hour or two beforehand makes it harder for a man to come quickly. As Dr. Jane Greer, relationship expert and family therapist, puts it, “You can build up arousal again with slow and intimate foreplay with your partner, so the guy’s excitement is initially satisfied and he can better pace himself and sync up with his partner’s rhythm.”

2. Take advantage of men’s refractory period. Who says sex needs to be limited to just one session? This one won’t work for everyone, but marriage therapist Lisa Thomas recommends starting things up again a few minutes after he ejaculates. “Many men experience less sensitivity during the second erection,” Thomas explains. As long as you don’t mind waiting the few minutes (or switching back to foreplay), and he can get it up relatively quickly, you should have better results in round two.

3. Try something new and out of the ordinary in bed. When you’ve been with the same partner for a while, your routine sex positions can make his body anticipate coming, and thus come a lot sooner. New positions and sensations will distract him and make him last longer. “The more awkward and unfamiliar, the better,” says Greer.

4. Try edging. When he’s about to orgasm, have him stop and wait about a minute or so before going back at it. Everyone has an orgasmic point of no return, an “ejaculatory inevitability” as sex researcher Dr. Ian Kerner puts it. Edging trains his body to delay that point so he can spend more time on the edge (and more time pleasing you).

5. Squeeze the base of his penis. This is an old one that comes courtesy of sex researchers Masters and Johnson. You can do this with your hand or using a cock ring. It quite literally stops him from ejaculating. Think of it like bending a hose in half to stop the flow of water, but definitely do not bend his penis in half under any circumstances. Just give it a firm grip.

6. Have him do kegels, yoga, and pilates. All of these exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which help him control orgasm spasms. (And yeah, dudes can do kegels too).

7. Try perpendicular sex positions. This is technically an outercourse position, but it’s a way to avoid the most sensitive areas of the penis (specifically, the underside of the head, where a lot of the nerves are located). “Don’t actually enter her, but let her glide back and forth along the top of the shaft,” says Kerner. Spoon or face each other on your sides, and it can still be enjoyable without making him rush to orgasm.

8. Medicate. In some situations, your partner may want to consider seeing a doctor. A variety of prescriptions are available if premature ejaculation is a serious issue that’s negatively affecting your relationship. And while there are over-the-counter supplements that tout their ability to improve a guy’s stamina, your best bet is to go through someone that knows what they’re talking about. Guys can check in with a urologist to see what the issue is and what steps can be taken. And as a general idea, it’s best to avoid supplements you can buy at a gas station.

9. Grab thicker condoms. You should always practice safe sex, so just switch up your condom purchases and instead get your partner something a little thicker (and if for whatever reason you aren’t using condoms, using one will probably dull sensations for him as well as keep you both protected). Keep in mind that it’s still important to make sure you find something that fits right for him. And never double-up on condoms. Double-bagging can lead to issues, like say, losing two condoms in your vagina. And as sex expert Emily Morse explains to Men’s Health, condoms can slip-on and act as a “desensitizer.”

There is love in SHARING

(Must Read) Best Way To Handle A Cheating Spouse

Infidelity has been a serious threat to the beauty of marriage. People hold the erroneous belief that it has come to stay. The general attitude is that ‘everybody is doing it.’ This issue cuts across race, colour, status and country. It has been a serious concern to me and I believe there is urgent need for intervention to salvage the society.

Infidelity is not in consonance with marital vow.

Couple gets married, promising to be faithful to each other, only to discard the promise sooner than later. It doesn’t matter whether it is a one-night stand or a long-term affair, the results are the same—your spouse’s action has led to fear, doubt, distrust, betrayal and anger. To the wounded, it is a source of emotional instability.

What makes the difference is how you handle these emotional feelings. It is quite understandable that catching your partner engaging in infidelity red-handed can be really traumatic. But for the sake of your marriage and the future of the children of the relationship, you can handle it in a matured manner to reduce its devastating effects.

No matter how terrible the situation is, it is necessary to point out that nothing is new under heaven. You need to brace up.

An average African would fight back tears in the face of the unpalatable experience. I would love advise that you allow the tears to flow unhindered.

Crying could be a healthy response, because naturally, your body would find it difficult to endure such an unsavoury development.

However, never allow the situation to degenerate to a ‘poor me’ attitude. That will not do you any good. Yes, due to cultural and ego factors, men often try to hide their feelings. But for the sake of your health, a man can cry if need be.

Then, go ahead and express your feelings to your spouse. Tell him or her how you feel. This is where positive communication is needful. Verbally expressing your feelings is also a healthy way to process anger—as long as you use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. When you say, “You betrayed me” or “You took advantage of me,” or “You don’t love me,” you will only generate negative reactions. And negative reactions don’t lead to positive outcomes.

I often jokingly tell couples that instead of making an issue over a spilled milk, why don’t you take hold of the hand of that ‘caught in adultery’ partner, lead him or her home to have a nice time together and move on with life. Marriage is such a sweet and good thing to enjoy instead of turning oneself to a psychiatric patient over inconsequential matters.

Statements such as, “I feel betrayed” or “I feel hurt,” or “I feel you don’t love me,” simply reveal your emotion. They’re honest statements that communicate the depth of your pains. But please, don’t attack his or her personality as he or she could become defensive and put you at the receiving edge. Instead of bringing about positive changes in the marital union, the relationship would end up in chaos.

Despite the fact that your emotion or ego must have been battered, learn to control your behaviour. Negative responses can complicate the problem.
If you do not tame your reaction, such a partner can heap the blame on you to exculpate himself or herself because your behaviour has demonstrated that you do not self control. This is a common trend in women. A lot of women have lost their homes, marriages, families and lives as a result of negative reactions.

Don’t retaliate. Revenge is a common negative response. Nobody has the exclusive preserve of vengeance. Vengeful tactics include engaging in immorality to show your unfaithful spouse what it feels like to be betrayed, or going to his or her workplace or the house of the other adulterer to cause a scene and so on. This will only aggravate one’s stupidity.

 Any effort at revenge is bound to fail. Returning wrong for wrong simply makes the other person feel less guilty and stimulates him or her to return fire for fire. Before you take such action, think about the many years of your investment into the marriage and the effects of your uncultured behaviour on your children’s destiny. Ask yourself, “What do I stand to gain?” or “What are the likely effects of this kind of behaviour on my relationship later, if I proceed to revenge brutally?

Instead, why don’t you seek the counsel of knowledgeable individuals?  After the initial wave of shock, hurt, and anger, the most productive step you can take is to seek the wisdom of a marriage counselor or your spiritual leader. If your spouse isn’t willing to go, then go alone. You’re more likely to make wise decisions if you get the help of someone who isn’t emotionally involved in the situation. Remember, the decision you take in anger or while under emotional stupor may lead to a major crisis.

How-to-Catch-Your-Cheating-SpouseNote that the purpose of counseling isn’t simply to keep you and your spouse under the same roof or make you to believe that it never happened. The essence of counseling is to make it possible for one to forget the past inadequacies of others, as to be able to establish a new pattern of relating to each other for a purposeful life-long relationship.

Don’t ever think that your marriage can never be restored. Your marriage can, indeed, be redeemed. While all sins can be forgiven, it is necessary to point out that the way to true reconciliation is genuine repentance. Your spouse must be willing to sever all contacts with the intruder and devote his or her efforts to rebuilding your marriage.

Help the other party to rebuild trust; reconciliation involves both of you taking honest look at what gave rise to the sexual unfaithfulness in question. The objective isn’t to trade blames, but to look at the dynamics of your marriage and discover what you and your mate need to change. It takes two people to make a mistake in marriage.

Trust won’t return overnight. Trust grows as your spouse now chooses to be trustworthy. If he or she sincerely wants to rebuild trust, the life of such a partner can be made an open book, because openness and commitment help trust-building.

Reconciliation after sexual infidelity is neither easy nor quick. But many will agree with a couple who told me, “Though it was painful, and healing took time, God refined our hearts. Nowadays, every time we go to our children’s school to pick them after school hours, we look at each other and smile, thanking God we didn’t give up on our marriage. 

Sincerely, there is hope for your marriage if we are ready to come together as one and learn to forgive past wrongs, no matter how painful.

There is love in SHARING

Living A Simple Life And The Pursuit Of Happiness.

Our culture has bred consumers and addicts. We eat too much, buy too much and want too much. We set ourselves on fruitless missions of filling the gaping hole within us with material things. Blindly, we consume more and more, believing we are hungry for more food, status, or money, yet really we are hungry for connection with our fellow men.

With this realization, the concept of minimalism and contentedness comes in play. I must say these are subjects that need to be taken into consideration as they have throughout the ages of man contributed immensely to the happiness and wellbeing of countless individuals who gave these concepts a shot even though they have been sparingly advocated.

I am sure most of you have come across the word “minimalism”. Some may have an idea of what it is and others, most probably, brushed it off like any other insignificant word. But now, each and everyone is wondering what this minimalism hullabaloo is all about, well it happens to be my subject for discussion today so feel free, relax and join me on this ride of words ecstasy. Don’t hesitate to post your comments and questions at the end of this article.

What is minimalism?

Minimalism is a lifestyle choice. Even some people do not consider it as such but rather a journey that is tasked with getting rid of the unnecessary, be it physical stuff or thoughts in favor of what is important. Minimalists search for happiness not through things but through life itself. The level of specificity is up to the individual who is at liberty to make choices in the areas of their lives they deem fit for this concept, lifestyle or journey.

Minimalism isn’t restricted to physical stuff only but clutter in every form, it is the escape from the excesses of the world around us – the excess of consumerism, material possession, clutter, having too much to do, too much debt, too many distractions, too much noise… but too little meaning.

“Minimalism is a way of eliminating the non-essential in order to focus on what’s truly important, what gives our lives meaning, what gives us joy and a sense of value”. ~ Leo Babuta

“Minimalism is an attitude, a way of being. It is a fundamental reaction against noise, visual noise, disorder, vulgarity. Minimalism is the pursuit of the essence in things, not the appearance”. ~ Massimo Vingelli

“Clutter is not just physical stuff. It is old ideas, toxic relationships, and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self”. ~ Eleanor Brown

“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking the whole world belongs to you.” ~ Lao Tzu

Other explanations to Minimalism

“It is a lifestyle of simplicity stripped off the unnecessary to make room for that which brings you joy.”

 “It is the removal of clutter in every form leaving you with peace, freedom, and lightness.”

Deeds of a Minimalist

“A minimalist shuns away from the mindset of more, of acquiring and consuming and shopping, of bigger is better; of the burden of stuff.”

“A minimalist realizes that acquiring and upgrading does make us happy, that filling your life with busyness and constant wanting of materialistic possessions isn’t desirable but embraces the beauty of less, the aesthetic of sparseness and a life of contentedness is the true source of happiness. He values quality and not quantity in all things.”

This concept is in direct correlation with growth and development because they constitute the bedrock of happiness, not stuff. A conscious realization of this fact is the first step towards fulfillment, happiness, and contentedness. Without growth and without a deliberate effort to help others, we are just slaves to cultural expectations ensured by the trappings of money and power and status and perceived success.

We are not our stuff, we are more than our possessions and a realization of this fact is a broad step to the actualization of contentedness. Some individuals may be confused and even relate minimalism to the possibility of leading an individual to abject poverty or a life of destitute. A friend once told me this and I smiled as he expressed an irrational fear following this path and dying a pauper… Well,

 I have news for you, this is a hasty generalization and a misconception as there are countless rich people who walk the minimalist path, and this concept isn’t emptiness for the sake of emptiness but rather making room to move freely, think clearly and open ourselves to the beauty and wonder of life.

“He who is not content with what he has, would not be content with what he would like to have.”~ Socrates.

“Work to become. Not to acquire.” ~ Elbert Hubbard.

“If you are going to have less things, they have to be great things.” ~ John Mardo.

“Collect memories, not things.” ~ Unknown.

“If you have to brag about the all material things in your life, there probably isn’t much else to it.” ~ Unknown

“Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing.” ~ Oscar Wilde.

“Joy is not in things; it is in us.” ~ Benjamin Franklin.

“Fill your life with lots of experiences, not lots of things. Have incredible stories to tell not incredible clutter in your closet.” ~ Marcandangel.

Minimalism Principles in a Nutshell

Minimalism isn’t restricted to reduction to less. It is also not an end in itself but rather a path or journey that helps an individual to:

  • Have more time
  • Have less worry
  • Have more freedom
  • Have more pleasure
  • Make room for what is more important
  • Became healthier
  • Become greener, in other words getting in tune with nature
  • Exercise frugality in every aspect of life


There is love in SHARING

(Daily Tips) Boost Your Testosterone With Anabolic Steroids

Today, the use of anabolic steroids has increased greatly due to increased flexibility in the strict measures that relate to their use. The regulation bodies are increasingly legalizing the use of various anabolic steroids with the condition that their use is supervised by authorized medical practitioners. So, whether you are a bodybuilder, athlete or weight-loss enthusiast, you can find some anabolic steroids for you. Reputable and legal anabolic steroids like Valkyrie Testosterone E250, are common among athletes who want to build muscle mass. We are going to look at how one can boost testosterone levels through the use of anabolic steroids.

Understanding WhatTestosterone Is

Testosterone is produced in the testicle cells of males and helps them in many ways. Primarily, a typical person is capable of producing enough testosterone to support these functions. The hormone ensures that mens’ reproductive system is healthy. For young men experiencing puberty, it is responsible for promoting hair growth and other male characteristics.

However, introduced to someone in a slightly larger amount than normal, testosterone promotes muscle cell growth. This is done under a qualified medical practitioners’ advice. It can either be injected or taken as pills, and this is how we get to anabolic steroids.

Understanding What Anabolic Steroids Are

As opposed to other types of steroids, anabolic steroids mainly focus on growth. They are commonly used in bodybuilding and sports where the participants need to increase their body mass and muscle cells. In the real sense, these are synthetic replicas of various hormones in the body thatperform these tasks.

How to Boost Testosterone With Anabolic Steroids

If you are a beginner in the use of steroids, you probably wonder how they succeed in adding body mass and boosting strength in athletes. Anabolic steroids meant to boost testosterone make sure that the user produces enough of the hormone in the body. Upon taking the synthetic hormone,the body identifies it as normal, and then the production process is triggered. Science shows that most bodies cannot differentiate testosterone triggers in anabolic steroids from those produced by the body. So, they are effective.

Upon the production of increased testosterone, it penetrates into the muscle cells and binds with androgen. The consequencesare an improved muscle mass growth. Further, the body creates estrogen from some of the testosterone and encourages more muscle growth. Therefore, increasing testosterone growth is usually one of the best options athletes can choose if they want to boost their muscles.

Precautions When Boosting Testosterone Levels With Anabolic Steroids

Any form of steroid has some side effects depending on use. It is for these reasons that they are highly regulated by authorized bodies. When taken in excess, the user should be ready forside effects that includealergicreactions, stroke, heart attack, skin infections and even death in some cases.

Therefore, one must use them as directed by qualified medical practitioners. Additionally, buy any anabolic steroids from a reliable seller and only after research on a specific brand you intend to use. With these precautions, you can rest assured that your testosterone levels will go up to the level you want.


There is love in SHARING