How Many Boyfriends or Girlfriends is Too Many?

One of my favorite Yoruba movies, which is now classified as a Classic Yoruba movie, is Aya mi Owon (Madam Dearest)by Tade Ogidan (2005), starring Opeyemi Aiyeola, Sola Sobowale (a.k.a Toyin Tomato), Akin Lewis, Yemi Solade and Gabriel Afolayan among others.  This was my first Gabriel Afolayan movie, but that is not the only reason why I remember this movie with fondness.


The movie tells the story of a woman (played by Opeyemi Aiyeola) who wants a child of her own, and the subsequent drama that unfolds.  It’s not your typical predictable Naija movie, so if you have never watched a Yoruba movie ever before, I highly recommend this one.  It’s worth your time, believe me.

Without ruining the movie for you (in case you haven’t watched it), there is a particular scene where Sola Sobowale (who acted the part of Toyin Tomato in that Super Story series “Oh Father, Oh Daughter,” the “Suara” story) tells Opeyemi Aiyeola that she had 32 1/2 (thirty-two and a half) boyfriends before she married her first husband. 

Now, without worrying our heads about what exactly “half” a boyfriend is, let us assume that she is telling the truth and she dated that many men.

Let us also assume that by “dating” these men, she actually means she was in a committed relationship with each man, though the possibility of that is very low if you watched the movie.  If you assume this, then the question that you need to answer is this: isn’t 32 and a half boyfriends too many? Or even 32 and a half girlfriends too?

I would say Yes.  I know a woman might have to kiss many frogs before she meets Prince Charming (not the one in Shrek, please), but 32 and a half ke? Chai! Chai! Chai! At some point, that person should have taken a long break from dating and decide what they really want in a relationship … or in life, for that matter.

What about you? Do you think dating that many people is over the top or just a necessary path to tread before meeting the right person?  Please share your thoughts o!

P. S. What is “half” a boyfriend? The jury is still out on that one.  We shall find out together.

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